No matter how bad you think you have it, there is an abundance of other people going through similar, or worse, experiences than you.
To this day, I still experience temporary defeats in most areas of my life.
However, one of the big key learnings I’ve picked up along the way is this:
I now view adversity and temporary defeats as the necessary seeds to success.
I originally learned this after reading countless autobiographies of successful people. The one thing that is consistent throughout all of their stories is how they started slow.
They faced many failures.
They wanted to quit.
And a lot of them hit rock bottom.
If you expect bad things to happen, they will. Always think that things will work out for you.These successful people had a burning desire inside that kept pushing them forward. This ongoing persistence allowed them to overcome any and all setbacks before finally reaching a turning point of success.
Sometimes we’re forced to hit rock bottom before discovering what we are really capable of.
When I look back at all the changes that have happened to me over the past 5 years, one thing remains constant.
No matter how bad it may have seemed at the time…things have always worked out for me in the end.
As a 32 year old man, my was heart crushed from losing my best friend and wife to a divorce.
I also lost all connection with my closest friends that I hung out with since I was 5 years old.
To top it off, my career was a mess. After firing my boss in 2011, my entrepreneurial business was a joke. I lost my personal training studio in the divorce, and was making less than $3 an hour from my online fitness business. This was the equivalent of $10,000 a year in gross revenue while working 70 hour weeks. This meant I didn’t even think I had enough income to get approved to rent an apartment.
This downward spiral probably would have driven most people to alcohol or drugs. Fortunately for me, I’ve never used those things as a crutch.
My burning desire to succeed as an entrepreneur was so strong that I stayed persistent and used those setbacks as motivation to work harder.
But don’t get me wrong. There were plenty of times I almost gave up. This is when my persistence finally paid off.
Out of the blue, I received a few lucrative business offers as well as a random e-mail from a female follower from California named Jessica. Yes, the same Jessica who is now my wife! Meeting Jessica also allowed me to follow my dream and move from a small town on the east coast of Canada to Los Angeles.
When it comes to my online fitness business, it’s now flourishing with new opportunities every day.
Call it ironic, call it mysterious, it doesn’t matter.
What does matter is I remained persistent throughout it all and didn’t give up when times were terrible. As hard as it was at the time, I continuosly believed in my abilities even when the critics were telling me otherwise.
No matter how much you’re currently struggling, if you’re good at what you do, you believe in yourself, and you persistently put in the effort; it’ll work out over time.
Your reactions to the challenges and obstacles you face are completely within in your control.
You are never defeated until you accept defeat as reality.
So let me end with this.
If Thomas Edison can fail 10,000 times, I’m positive you can find the courage and guts to overcome a few defeats and continue pursuing your goals.
The starting point to changing your life is to BELIEVE you WILL do it,
NOT wishing or hoping it could happen.
Wishing and hoping do not create action.
Once you truly believe you will accomplish something, then and only then are you open and ready to receive it.
This has worked for so many “failure to success” stories, and it will work for you.
My new book, Think And Live Lean, is being released on Amazon. The actionable steps in this book are designed to CHANGE YOUR MINDSET to live a life of success inside and outside of the gym.
As always, I’m open to your thoughts and recommendations. Come say hi on Twitter @BradGouthro and lets connect!